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Here's how to get divorced by 30


When you blog about relationships for Psychology Today, you aren't surprised when people you barely know start asking for advice. The questions come even faster once the story gets out that you've written a book on the popular subject of how and why people fall in and out of love.

And yet, says Sascha Rothchild, you can still be somewhat startled by what you hear.

``I was at a party, and it got out that I had written a book about marriage and divorce. This nice gay couple was talking to me, and one guy walked into the kitchen, and his partner grabs me and asks, `If I have a threesome with two other people I don't know, is that considered cheating?' And I was like, `Um, yes!' He was like, `Oh no!' The other guy came back, and I just said, `Good luck to both of you.' ''

Sascha This sort of encounter is getting to be routine for Rothchild, who appears Thursday at Books & Books in Coral Gables. The Beach High grad (class of '94) -- daughter of Susan and author John (Up for Grabs, Going for Broke, A Fool and His Money) Rothchild -- has just published her first book, How to Get Divorced by 30: My Misguided Attempt at a Starter Marriage (Plume, $15 in paper). The television and movie writer, who lives in Los Angeles, is breezy and candid about sex, a series of not-so-great relationships and a ``starter marriage'' that she fears is typical for the lack of real thought that went into forming it: ``I was so invested in my timetable that I didn't give myself the option to not get married.''

Rothchild, 33, who was also a creative consultant for the VH1 dating show Tough Love, says that her post-breakup therapy acted almost like an editing process: ``I needed help to get to the heart of what I wanted to say. A lot of emotion came out in the first draft.''

Which was good, given that she did not want to write ``this sweeping book of emotion.

``I definitely wanted this to be fun at times and lighthearted at times and to have the overall sense that you can get married and divorced, and you don't need to buy a villa in Tuscany or go to India to an ashram to get over it. You can just stay in town and deal with it.''

Click here to read my Q and A with Rothchild, who appears at 8 p.m.Thursday at Books & Books in Coral Gables.



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