USA Today has a piece on a survey that says teen no-sex pledges (can) work.
According to the survey, of about 1,500 12 - 17-year-olds queried in 2001, a quarter or so pledged to wait till marriage for sex.
By 2004, while 34% had broken the pledge, 42% of teens who'd made no pledge in the beginning had "caved" in to sex.
To be fair to the surveyors, it also said that solid sex education played a role in keeping kids out of the sack.
I applaud efforts to get kids to wait, 'cause kids don't always think straight when they're excited in that way. And confused, excited people seem to be prone to forgetting protection and to making unwanted babies and unnecessarily sharing diseases.
But I just never thought these sorts of pledges worked. I remember going to Mass with a Catholic cousin when we were kids and the priest at the end of each sermon admonishing the young people to go out and try not to sin. Of those kids in that church whom I knew personally,
very few none of us succeeded on that mission.
My pops is a preacher...not that his "goodness" automatically transferred to me. But if anyone would have earned browny points for making such a pledge it would have been me.
In fact, in high school I made such a pledge. But I can assure you, it wasn't 'cause I intended to follow through. It was 'cause I really had nothing to lose, since my immediate prospects for sex looked pretty bleak anyway.
It's like asking someone with no access to booze to promise not to drink any.
So bravo to the kids who kept their pledge, but those of you with teens or pre-teens out there must have something to say about this.
If your kid promised you to not have sex until marriage, would you buy it? Have you bought it?