Regardless of what side you're on in the debate over Attorney General Eric Holder's speech last week in which he said in racial issues Americans have basically been cowards, hear me out.
I think Holder was wrong. But if that's your take, don't applaud me yet.
I get the direction he was aiming, but he missed the target. So I'm saying the overall premise of his speech - the whole speech, not just that snippet - was valid.
But where Holder went wrong was the remark about cowardice, at least where the past 25 years or so apply.
Not wanting to talk about a particular subject - in this case, race relations, racism, etc. - does not make either side cowardly.
What determines cowardice or bravery is why one side or the other (or both) doesn't want to talk.
If black folks and white folks - the two sides most often thrust to the forefront in race relations debates and discussions - don't want to talk 'cause they find the conversation weird and distasteful and too tough to start, then shame on us all.
But I don't think that's been the case. I think folks from both sides have been willing to talk about the subjects of racial differences and race relations.
What neither side wants to deal with is the crippling fear of being offensive or the major annoyance of not being understood.
Let's be blunt. No one wants to ask a question they think is gonna get them a scornful look in reply. On the other side of that coin, no one wants to explain something they've lived to someone they feel should already know the answer.
It's lose lose. The only solution, in my humble opinion, is for Congress - Ha, ha, I'm kidding! Congress bites. - to declare a one-year moratorium on getting offended over questions about race, religion, or sexual orientation.
Seriously - well, semi-seriously - we need a one-year no-harm no-foul period, so everyone can work it out.
By year's end we'll either be holding hands across America and singing Kumbaya or we'll be in civil war again.