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Transgender McFatter senior crowned prom queen

BY STEVE ROTHAUS, srothaus@MiamiHerald.com

They’ve bullied and taunted her, calling her names and writing on her locker.

And now, the seniors at McFatter Technical High School have elected Andrew Viveros their 2011 prom queen.

“They called my name and I was in total shock,’’ said Andrew, a 17-year-old who was born male but has publicly presented herself as female for the last two years.

With her long wavy brown hair, Andrew wore a royal blue dress and got a fresh manicure for the Friday night dance.

Andrew, also known as Andii, plans to someday change her name to Andrea. She wanted to run for prom queen in order to show other transgender teens “it gets better.”

She ran against 14 others.

Andrew said some McFatter teens pleaded with school management not to allow her to run for queen.

“Many students have started a petition to have me removed from the ballot,” Andrew wrote last week in a Facebook message. “They also are outraged and say I am making a mockery of prom, because I am going in an evening gown.”

Last year, school officials suggested Andrew not dress as a female in class and to “tone it down,” she said.

“This year we got a new principal and she’s very supportive of me,” Andrew said, even encouraging her to run for prom queen. “She said “Stay in the running. Don’t back down for anything.’”

McFatter seniors who voted Friday night also chose a prom king: Juan Macias, a 17-year-old gay male senior.

Before the big night, Andrew’s father, Oscar Viveros, bought her a gown, shoes and makeup.

“My parents support me. They always have,” said Andrew, the oldest of four siblings.

“I’ve always loved him unconditionally,” said Oscar Viveros, who still uses male pronouns when talking about Andrew. “I’ve told my other kids, they have to support him. He thinks he’s a girl in a man’s body. In school, he hears this and that, but I’ve made sure in our house he’s free to act and do whatever makes him comfortable.”

Viveros, 46, a supervisor at a private garbage-collection company in Fort Lauderdale, said his co-workers aren’t as tolerant.

“I’ve got guys at work who say, ‘Oh, you didn’t beat him up?’’’ Viveros said. “I love him too much.”

Viveros said he and his wife, Bernadette, 42, view Andrew as a straight female.

“He doesn’t consider himself gay. He likes men. I understand that. He’s just in the wrong body,’’ said Viveros, who recalls a young Andrew wanting to try on Cinderella’s dress at Disney World.

“I’d tell him, ‘You’re a boy,’’’ Viveros said. “He’d try it on anyway. He was happy.”

Life as a transgender teen is a challenge, Andrew says.

Some McFatter students have taunted her, “but they know not to mess with me,” she said.

“I’ve filed bullying reports over and over again with people. I’ve had many incidents. People would call me ‘faggot.’ People would write on my locker, repeatedly.

“The looks you get going out, you have to deal with that. They are going to look at you because you’re different,” Andrew said. “Applying for jobs is hard. If you’re going to apply, you can’t be who you are.”

Andrew now plans to attend Broward College and get a degree in culinary arts management.

Oscar Viveros has advice for other parents with gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender children:

“Let them grow to be whatever they want to be, as long as they’re good,” Viveros said. “Let them blossom into whatever they want to be. Support them 100 percent.”

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Jacki

I'm completely with Laura on this.
The only difference in this case is that the prom queen is not a biological female. Big deal.

The whole purpose of this article is to show the amount of accceptance -not just from the student body- that is coming about for the LGBT community. Personally, I find it incredible that the faculty at this school were so supportive. I know for a fact that neither a transgender queen nor a gay king would have been elected for prom court at my high school. I'm happy that the public perspective is changing, and I'm proud to say that I grew up in a time where equal rights for LGBT people are at the forefront of the civil rights movement.

PS. To all the anonymous McFatter students who posted snarky comments: Grow up. You're entering the real world soon, and it's got no room for pettiness from you.

chelsea

I'm an 18 year old female from nebraska and this story gave me hope that one day people may become more tolerant with eachothers differences which make us the individuals we are. I want to tell her thank you for running and she deserves the prom queen title. Thank you andii for being who you are and thank you for proving that its okay to be whoever you want to be in life.

Leah

I think that everyone here is forgetting about Andii and what she is going through. Imagine yourself in her position. People going through difficult phases and struggles in their lives might sometimes lash out or not be themselves for a while. That's normal.

She's dealing with accepting herself as a transgender female. I continue struggling with accepting my bisexuality, and that's minuscule compared to Andii accepting herself as a transgender individual. None of you who are not transgendered know what Andii is experiencing right now, and I think that you need to be more understanding because, aside from dealing with accepting herself, she now has to deal with all of the scrutiny from all of you.

Ashes

Her father is an amazing man.

Aring

Sounds like for such a SMALL high school graduating class, and a huge win for Andii, that one or two people keep posting pretending to be numerous others. As Judge Judy says, "If it doesn't make sense, it isn't true." What I'm more concerned about is the spelling/grammar of the graduating class. If all these posts from the high school graduating class are different people, then something is wrong with the education being provided! YIKES! I'd also like to correct what some people say about "everyone gets bullied" - NOT true.

Cat

I'd also like to point out, that as a gay man, we don't all refer to ourselves as "girls", so for the post about a school crowning a gay man the queen and the lesbian the king - THAT would be offensive! If Andii considers herself a female, then she should be queen (a female role). The gay man, whom I assume likes being a male, should be the male role of "king".

Meilani

This is a really touching story. Thank you. There is hope that the world will change its views towards people with different perspectives. The ridiculous thing is people forget the little detail that America was made up of people running away from others who prejudiced them, yet now-a-days so many people here think that their way is the only way and feel they have a right to treat others like crap because of it. I don't think they understand how much they should appreciate the freedom they have and how everyone should fight for the freedoms of others and keep their negative opinions to themselves. It is important to realize that just because you disagree with someone else' choices, it doesn't mean you can't disagree respectfully. THAT is a basic concept that everyone should already know, but it seems as society "advances", that sense of integrity and respect fades away.

Ella

Nailed it, Laura. To the McFatter grads: get over yourselves. We're talking about one gaudy night that probably most of you, besides Andrew and her friends, won't even think of in two years' time. And I wonder just how many of the other Queen candidates made it a point to be courteous to and interested in anyone outside their normal cliques. Sorry, that's high school all over. If anything, the rants of Andrew's classmates are proving that point better than I can.

I also have to say I'm a little shocked at the obvious hatred lurking in some of their more impassioned comments. But that only proves just how necessary are milestones like these for the LGBT community. The more commonplace events like this become, the less room the bigots, old and young, have to spread around their hate.

solomon

I'm so happy to see change come. It seems like the world is becoming more tolerant, my prom prince was gay, my lesbian friend went to prom with a girl and dressed in a suit. My moms country which is heavily catholic accepts gay marriage, my state accepts it, there is so much good coming to the gay community, it will be accepted very soon

Josh

I am filled with pride of these young adults-regardless of name, gender or orientation. As a gay man in my 40s from the UK my personal discovery was total hell with no place to seek comfort in the storm. Even the teachers bullied me as I would not say I was something I was not. Through reflexion and work I have gained great strenght from my experiences.

I do feel that the GLBT community need to be seen as people, lovers, Drs, refuse collectors etc before being seen as a sexuality which sadly so many many people feel the need to present to society.

America as with other countries does so much so well with regards to equality lets hope this line continues and the future will not require articles such as this [as good as it is]

For now, lets just appreciate that these young adults are living "their" lives and need no acceptance from anyone else.

cassie

As a lesbian and a former prom queen, this story hits home! Anyone who says otherwise, I ask you, why did you even bother to read this article? You formed your judgements by the title alone.

Brandi

I'm so proud of Andii's parents. I've heard about people who weren't so accepting of their gay, lesbian, or transgendered kids.

Kay

@ Joann Prinzivalli '"Born male" is a judgment. A more correct and less judgmental phraseology would have been something like "assigned a male gender at birth."

"Born male" involves a denial of the scientific evidence that has been ammassing since 1995 that transgender people are developmenally different based on genetic and embryological factors - so that we are born different and are not properly assigned that birth sex. So "born male" or "born a man" are inaccurate.'

Since when is "born male/female" a judgment? Saying otherwise IS denying scientific evidence that they were, indeed, born a physical sex. "Assigned"? Assigned by whom? By God? By the parents' sperm and egg? By the doctor that delivered him/her? Assigned is wrong because that implies that someone rather than nature produced the sex of the baby. Feeling psychologically of the opposite sex of which one was born with is an entirely different matter. There is nothing wrong saying you were born as a girl and feeling like a boy in a girl's body so you're going with what you feel is right. Don't expect anyone to remember or say you were "assigned" a girl's sex. If you really wanted to get your point across, you could say "I was born physically as a girl, but mentally/psychologically a boy." People would understand that but no one would understand what you mean by "assigned" and I'm sure you'd have to explain it just like you did here because it doesn't make the sense you think it does. It will produce some eye-rolling behind your back, though.

It would be sad if this girl was elected prom queen as a joke as some have implied but at least on a national scale, not many will read the "real story" about her so I think this is good publicity over all.

Richard

Ok, first of all, the prom queen (I have noticed in my school's events) are those who are often voted as a joke, everyone tries to be funny then BAMM!! they win. Andrew is an example of this, it seems. Why does everyone assume that this article is the facts, its not its a story made to take side on the one 'marginalised'. So everyone here is giving the "fellow classmates" slack over there opinions, which more than likely are not the truth and are twisted, but I assure you they are a hell of allot more accurate than the authors article. I have no problems with gays and lesbians, but transgenders, what is the need? you can express both sex's through the way you are, your personality. You don't have to be the tough macho bloke, but dressing up and keeping up this persona of the opposite gender is asking for mockery as that is not who you were made to be. (not a religious fan) so lets support gay marriages etc. but none of this transgender rubbish, stick to the good 'ol tom boys attitude.

Esther Telleche

This is a moving article and I'm so proud of her. Andrew is very courageous and I commend him. For those of you confused by the gender pronouns and would like to learn more about trans-friendly terms, I invite you to attend my web training hosted in part by the Florida Department of Health. The Trans-Community is often ignored and I'm very proud of Steve for writing this article. https://cc.readytalk.com/r/lwn3tsynxb6l

Zaq

She was born male? Wow she looks beautiful! A Rightful queen. Keep fighting!

Berry

All above commentary aside, the one thing that really confused me about this article is why does Andii's dad keep using male pronouns when constantly saying that he is proud of Andii? I feel like that's counterproductive...

jm

There is no way I would let my childred attend this school. what are they teaching anyway, it seems like they support doing the opposite of what normall goes on. A gay man wins prom king and transgender man win prom queen. That is the most backwards thing I have ever heard go on in a prom election. The principal, teachers, administrators, students, and parents should all be ashamed they let this happen. Let him dres like a girl, fine, but to win prom queen as a guy? The other girls should really be ashamed, they got beat out as prom queen by a man!

Ashley

I like how so many people are trying to come in and take power away from her victory with the most frivolous of things.
Why is it that in this country if you're part of a marginalized group and you're being recognized that you also have to be absolutely perfect? If you're not then someone will find something to take you down with.
Sickening.
And the people who continue to refer to her as him?
Also sickening.

Marco Cecilio

I think it is wonderful to see that finally the mentality of people is changing, even that it happens very slowly. As much as we know we have only one life on this earth, so lets try to embrace it, enjoy it, respect it - every minute of it - and respect others to let them do so in the same way. If everybody just would be a little more open minded, let "others" live their lives the way they feel happy, embrace them, no matter what sex, religion, sexual preference, opinions about life they/you have. We can be so damn happy that there is such a great variety of the species "humans" on this planet, if only we could more communicate "normally", peacefully one another, share our opinions. Evolution (or for some "God") has created countless forms of life on this planet...and will continue to do so, change them, evolute them ...so who are we to say what is really right or wrong? Everyone has to have the right to decide this for themselves! I am so happy for you Andi/Andii!!!! All the best from Brasil

sean

this is by far the lamest thing i have ever read.(all the comments that is) who gives a crap about anything that has to do with highschool. i mean don't get me wrong highschool was fun, but this sounds like a whole buch of drama that you graduates will get over in a couple years... just saying, liven up, prom is not that dang important, and there are going to be plenty more things in your life to get mad about.(politicians haha)oh yeah by the way if you graduated highschool then you no longer have to see this andii fella and therefor should not be a problem any more:)

Josie

I believe that Andii's winning of prom queen will help many transgenders and homosexualls in the future. If the comments of her fellow students are true,then that is sad. I am 13 so I can relate more to the students posting here. If the case is that Andii is a bully then I believe that maybe another person should have won. Even though her winning is a great contribution to society, why should a rotten person win such a title ? Eventually, a trangender who deserves it would have won prom queen or prom king. What I dont understand is why the prom king isn't getting attention. He is gay and appearently is a nice person , so why isnt he getting any attention?

Brandon Perez

I was also a graduate of McFatter last year. I agree with the few people above about how Andrew really is. Because of this whole situation and recognition, all he is doing now is trying to appear like a little angel. During my high school years with him I've seen him run his mouth and ridicule other people more often then any one has ridiculed him. Due to all of this attention that he was clearly trying to get everyone thinks he was doing this for a cause, for a reason. But clearly to the people who know who he really is, this is all a joke. Just him manipulating the situation to his liking. And I'm not only talking about situations that I've seen happen to other people I have also had to deal with his actual personality personally. You all see this, not knowing who he really is. Your all judging him by the appearance he all wants you to judge. But inside he is an ugly person, and a horrible woman at that. Not deserving of this title or recognition. Juan Macias on the other hand is deserving. He has been nothing but a wonderful person and a kind heart. during my early years at this school I could've considered him to be one of my best friends. I was literally one of the first people he opened up to, and i did my best to support him and his decision and likings. Although its been a while since I've really been close to him, I still consider him to be a wonderful friend and a great figure to represent what you all are giving recognition to Andrew for. I think it's a damn shame that this whole story is only focused on Andrew and not Juan. And unlike Andrew Some of Juans family weren't as accepting of who he is.

Juan will always have a place in my heart. And I am very proud of him winning prom king. Congratulations Juan.

Andrew, I smh.

Gretchen

I am happy Andii's father is so supportive. When you are a female in a male body it is difficult enough. It's wonderful he has support at home.

AJ

Unreal. Its a MALE, don't keep writing "she". Do you people enable other delusional people's mental malfunctions as real? Do you follow the paranoid person who thinks he is being followed to make his delusions more real? This is a disgrace.

Will C

This school is a joke. #1 this supposed prom queen is a man, until he has his plumbing cut off he should be considered a man and should give back the title. I have no problem with the gay teen boy winning the prom king title, but it seems to me like this suppose prom queen is a freak show for everyone's laughter. And reading someone of the comments by the students of this school and the grammar and spelling, they need to forget about these proms until they are taught something. One last thing, instead of getting his boobs done, he need's to work on that face, he looks like a dude.

LiberalThinker

He is a boy that chooses to dress and live as a girl. He is not brave, he is just different. Doesn't take a lot of courage to live as an anomaly. It is a shame that people reward devious behavior. I am sure there were many more deserving contestants than this boy.

Jillian

Wow, I read every comment on here. It's hard to disagree with anyone, both pro and con.

One thing stood out to me above all else. Self proclaimed students seemed to have a difficult time expressing themselves in a coherent manner. I had to read their comments two or three times to figure out what they were trying to say. (I agreed with many)

It appears that too much attention is being placed on gay rights and possibly other unimportant issues that not enough attention is being paid to class work.

Sorry to offend.. just an outsider's view

Luckyfindz

This is truly disgusting. Another sad, sad commentary for America.

Nick Wilson

Why do so many queers go out of their way to get attention ? It seems they want equality but ity seems ALL they are about is beig queer . He/she is very unattractive. Isn't there any better looking women ot Transgenders at that school ? sounds like one of those liberal schools.

josephcecil smith

lovely display of civil rights, peaceful honor of citizens right to be as gay or wild or not as they darn well choose.. thanks to all for voting in this drag queen.. not my cup of tea, but i'm so overjoyed she's not being beaten and hated and hurt.. i'm so over gay haters, who are usually gayest themselves, hence the bashing hate-fear,... thanks Andii for being so courageous.

Jillian

Wow, I read every comment on here. It's hard to disagree with anyone, both pro and con.

One thing stood out to me above all else. Self proclaimed students seemed to have a difficult time expressing themselves in a coherent manner. I had to read their comments two or three times to figure out what they were trying to say. (I agreed with many)

It appears that too much attention is being placed on gay rights and possibly other unimportant issues that not enough attention is being paid to class work.

Sorry to offend.. just an outsider's view

Martha

Laura's comment just made me laugh out loud. Way to give this whole thing some perspective. In a way, it should be kind of an affirmation for Andrew--she's just like every prom queen before her. No matter how much progress our society makes or how different the circumstances may be, some things never change. People will always hate the prom queen.
As a side note, Andrew is better looking than most prom queens I've seen.

Cantignorefacts

Until Andrew loses a y chromosome and sprouts a second x chromosome, he is a male. In fact this is the criteria used for establishing the sex of Caster Semenya.

G. Ashley

As a straight male, may I simply make this point:
This country has been in existence for some 235 years. In all that time, our Constitution has promised ALL who are citizens of this great country the right to "Life, Liberty AND THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS."

Why, in the name of God and all that is holy, does this have to be an issue 235 years into our existence? The answer is: IGNORANCE. Andrew/Andii is simply pursuing the life that he/she NEEDS to live in order to realize the happiness others simply take for granted because we don't have to make adjustments. If anything, the rest of us should embrace the fact that we DO live in a country that ALLOWS and ENCOURAGES people to pursue their happiness, as long as it's within our established laws.

BRAVO for Andrew/Andii for having the courage and, more important, the commitment to do what it takes to make his/her life complete.

BRAVO to the students who supported this effort by selecting him/her for homecoming queen!

And an exceptionally HUGE BRAVO to her family for seeing to it he/she has the support AT HOME to be who she really is INSIDE.

To all those who would denigrate this story or Andrew/Andii, I would say only this: You've limited your own life by wasting time trying to demean others. You've set in motion a negativity which will only leave you as a small-minded and bitter person who would be better off spending more time finding your OWN source of happiness in a positive environment. Ignore that which you reject about this, because Andrew/Andii has no less a right to the pursuit of happiness than each of you.

Finally, it would do us ALL good to remember that each "RIGHT" we enjoy in this country has a corresponding responsibility to respect those rights as they pertain to others. You do NOT have a right to step on the rights of others. In doing so, you merely expose yourselves as those who live in ignorance and do not fully understand the concept of "Freedom and Justice For ALL." How pathetic for our society.

End of story.

Pj meade

The country is going down the toilet, thanks liberals!! Freaks.

CL Strick

I'm so glad that I am able to homeschool. I don't support bullying of any type, form or fashion. I also don't believe that I have to "support" the GBLT agenda. I can disagree without bullying. I can be kind to any human, but please don't expect us all to agree with that type of lifestyle.

Michael Todd

There's a better way. Please read to the end. 1Corinthians 6:9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [f]effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.

Josie

Nasty nasty nasty!!

Maria

His DNA will always say male. How we applaud psychological abnormalities as normal and "special" is beyond me. This article totally disgusts me. I believe the students on here who claimed he was voted in as a joke more than because he deserved it. How sick.

freespeech

One word. FREAKS!

Allah

looking forward to Hurricane season in South Florida

Concerned Citizen

The father of this freak should be ashamed of himself. Also feel bad that a real girl could not be chosen prom queen.

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TP

Steve,

I believe the anonymous posters have one point. And that is you wrote the story from only one point of view. However, that's probably for the best, because I suspect they are at least partially correct. Prom isn't as serious an affair at most high schools. Too many students feel left out of the popular crowd and if they have the choice to vote someone in as a joke they will take it. I learned that lesson the hard way, but in the very long term it turned out well.

When I was a senior in high school, I stood my ground and insisted that an obnoxious girl in class was more deserving to be one of the three mat warming queen candidates, because she was one of the three girls in our senior class who had actually attended our matches. When our senior teammates gave the list to our coach, he was mad. Not because he didn't like her, but because he knew she'd be the queen candidate as a joke. Sure enough, it was a big joke and she became queen candidate. Luckily she did not believe it was a joke.

Fast forward 25 years and she is one of the nicest people to everyone else. That has become a fond memory for her. And for that fact alone, I am glad I stood up for her.

We also had several kids who were teased because they were gay at my school. They weren't teased more than most others for other reasons, but they may have felt left out. What a difference time makes though. I have suprisingly discovered that the majority of those kids from my school who used to tease the gay kids would be very supportive as grown ups.

Melanie

If you look carefully at the photos, the last photo in the article shows Andii with the rest of the prom court in the background. I am guessing that this is the moment Andii realized that the crown was won.

Look at the reactions of the rest of the prom court! The young man on the right is in hysterics and the young black female in the front has that "Mean Girls" look in her eye as if just succeeding in pulling off the biggest dupe in school history.

Body language tells the true story... I'm afraid some of the earlier posters are right that Andii only won because the rest of the class thought it would be funny to make a transgender queen and gay king for Prom.

Anna Rosa

I am not sure HOW I feel about this. One the one hand it seems quite positive that this individual Andi/Andrew, has been successful in being "all that she can be", but as straight aging baby boomer I am still a bit uncomfortable with the seeming "de riguour" association with the "semi-socialist, liberal gay left".

I guess what troubles me is this young person's future. The article mentions "transition". Does this mean that Andi, (Andrea) plans on becoming a woman, as in change of anatomical sex?

And if so, (GLAAD Media Reference Guide NOT withstanding), would not the term, "tran-sexual" be more appropo? After all is not changing one's morphological SEX, DIFFEENT from switching genders or lifestyles? Further, is she planning to forever be known or percieved as "transgendered"?

Melange

Is this a mostly gay high school or some sort of alternative school? Some of the pictures leave me with questions. It just doesn't seem like a public city high school. It looks like other males were up for prom queen as well. This is not a negative comment, I'm just curious.

Joe Tempe

Until "his" name is legally changed, its Andrew.

Stacie

Thank you, Will! Finally, somebody with some common sense. All of this is ridiculous and to say in the least, disgusting! My God, what is this world coming to! You are born male or you are born female, how scientific can you get. You have male parts or you have female parts. You a boy or you are a girl! ANDREW is a MALE, despite what HE may think or wish there is absolutely NOTHING HE can do about that. All of the operations, dressing, makeup and whatever else you transgenders may do.. you can NEVER change what God or your mamma gave you at birth. So, get over yourselves and quit acting like you need or deserve special privileges and/or attention. Call it bullying, or call it hate, I'm sick of you people trying to push your agenda on us.

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