Romenesko.com has posted an update from AP spokesman Paul Colford regarding an "internal memo" posted on the media website:
UPDATE: AP spokesman Paul Colford writes: “The Monday internal memo you’ve posted [at the bottom of this post] was soon after rewritten and reissued to staff on Monday for greater clarity. You might add the revision, as follows:”
SAME-SEX COUPLES: We were asked how to report about same-sex couples who call themselves “husband” and “wife.” Our view is that such terms may be used in AP content if those involved have regularly used those terms (“Smith is survived by his husband, John Jones”) or in quotes attributed to them. Generally AP uses couples or partners to describe people in civil unions or same-sex marriages.