NEW YORK, Nov. 7, 2013 – GLSEN, the Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network, is calling on the NFL, its teams, its players and its analysts to denounce the harmful notions of what it means to “be a man” that are being expressed in reaction to the alleged Miami Dolphins bullying case, including reports that the Dolphins’ general manager told player Jonathan Martin’s agent that Martin should have resorted to violence to respond to the alleged harassment and bullying.
In an interview unrelated to the Martin case earlier this week, former NFL player Kordell Stewart even went as far as to say he cannot be gay because he is “100% man.”
“Our children are watching and learning dangerous lessons from their heroes about what it means to be a ‘man,’” GLSEN Executive Director Eliza Byard said. “Being a man does not mean bullying someone. It does not mean responding to bullying with violence. And it certainly does not mean using racist and homophobic slurs to belittle someone and ‘toughen them up.’
“We often overlook the damaging gender stereotypes expressed in bullying, and the ways that sexism and homophobia work together to isolate and victimize young people. Pressures to ‘be a man’ or ‘act like a lady’ can do lasting physical and emotional harm, whether someone is lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or not. Unfortunately, cultural institutions like the NFL sometimes reinforce, intentionally and unintentionally, these destructive norms, which we see played out every day at schools across the country. GLSEN is calling on the NFL and society as a whole to respond to this horrifying bullying incident and Stewart’s remarks with real thought and care about the messages we send our youth about bullying, gender and, frankly, just being decent human beings to each other – and to take action to ensure that we are creating a culture of respect for our youth.”
While many NFL players, coaches and officials deserve credit for speaking out against Richie Incognito’s behavior, below is a sample of the harmful statements prominent NFL-related figures have said about the incident:
“Playing football is a man’s job, and if there’s any weak link, it gets weeded out.”
"At this level, you're a man. You're not a little boy. You're not a freshman in college. You're a man. ... So, Richie Incognito, is he wrong? Absolutely. But I think the other guy is just as much to blame. Hopefully he's able to bounce back and recover from all that has happened and take awareness of, you know, man, you're a grown-ass man. You need to stand up for yourself.”
“Instead of being a man and confronting him, he acted like a coward and told like a kid."
"I think if you have a problem with somebody -- a legitimate problem with somebody -- you should say, 'I have a problem with this,' and stand up and be a man.”
GLSEN, the Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network, is the leading national education organization focused on ensuring safe schools for all students. Established in 1990, GLSEN envisions a world in which every child learns to respect and accept all people, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. GLSEN seeks to develop school climates where difference is valued for the positive contribution it makes to creating a more vibrant and diverse community. For information on GLSEN's research, educational resources, public policy advocacy, student organizing programs and educator training initiatives, visit www.glsen.org.
From Greg Cote's column Tuesday about the Miami Dolphins, locker-room bullying, guard Richie Incognito (the accused bully) and tackle Jonathan Martin, the apparent victim:
Sometimes we ponder how NFL teams or sports in general might accept openly gay players. What’s been going on with the Dolphins does not encourage a very favorable answer.
Cote also writes about players' "resistance" to change:
I heard it Monday in the locker room of the team’s Davie headquarters. I heard support for Incognito. I did not much sympathy for Martin. I heard a lot of defending of the football and locker room culture – a mind-set that says the bully wasn’t wrong, the victim was just weak.
“I don’t feel like any hazing or anything like that was going on,” receiver Mike Wallace said. “It’s normal in football. People doing what they do on a normal basis. I don’t feel like anybody was being bullied or hazed. It’s what football teams do, like playing with your brothers. It’s just part of the game of football.”
On Incognito: “I don’t feel like he was out of hand,” Wallace said. “I wish he was here right now.”
Not exactly a surprise.
Days after Wallace joined the Dolphins last April, he got himself into hot water sending a tweet about gay NBA center Jason Collins:
"All these beautiful women in the world and guys wanna mess with other guys SMH..."
Wallace quickly deleted the tweet and posted:
"Never said anything was right or wrong I just said I don't understand!! Deeply sorry for anyone that I offended"
The Dolphins immediately announced that Wallace's Twitter comment about homosexuality doesn't reflect the team's views:
“Mike Wallace has apologized for his comments, and we have addressed the matter with him. Mike’s comments do not reflect the views of the Miami Dolphins. We believe in a culture of inclusiveness and respect, and any statements to the contrary are in no way acceptable to our organization. We will address the entire team about our policy of inclusion and make sure they all understand the importance of respecting individual choices.”
Some players weren't listening.
November 05, 2013 in Bisexual, Bullying, Business, Current Affairs, Florida, Fort Lauderdale & Broward County, Gay, Lesbian, LGBT, Media, Miami & Miami-Dade County, Miami Beach, Politics, Religion, South Florida, Sports, Transgender, Weblogs, Wilton Manors, Workplace, Youth | Permalink | Comments (0)
Above, Florida Panthers account executive Brandon Loker; Pride Center development director Roger Roa; Glenn Witman, managing partner of You Can Play Project; and Mackie Feierstein, the Panthers' director of group sales.
Click here to learn more about the Panthers/You Can Play Equality Night.
Click here to view more pictures from the event. Photos by STEVE ROTHAUS / Miami Herald Staff.
October 20, 2013 in Bisexual, Bullying, Business, Current Affairs, Florida, Food and Drink, Fort Lauderdale & Broward County, Gay, Lesbian, LGBT, Media, Miami & Miami-Dade County, Miami Beach, Politics, Religion, South Florida, Sports, Television, Transgender, Weblogs, Wilton Manors, Workplace, Youth | Permalink | Comments (0)
You Can Play Project began after then Toronto Maple Leafs general manager Brian Burke lost his gay son Brendan in a 2010 car crash. Brian Burke and older son Patrick started the You Can Play to show support for gay hockey players and fans.
"I obviously fully support the initiative and the program. I think it's a great program and it's a credit to the Burke family for starting it up. Now, the NHL and the Panthers are expanding it and making more people aware of it. I don't know if all NHL teams are doing something but it's good of the Panthers to get things started," said Campbell, who last year made a promotional You Can Play video.
"It's a simple saying, but it's true; it doesn't matter who you are or what you believe in, if you're good enough to play you can play. And that goes to our fans as well. We want everyone to come out and enjoy hockey. Some may be coming to the game for the first time. I hope they get hooked on it. They'll find it's a game you can get hooked on very easily," he said.
"It's nice to be able to go about and publicize that everyone is welcome here. I support that. But it's not just about gays and lesbians; everyone is welcome."
October 18, 2013 in Bisexual, Bullying, Business, Current Affairs, Florida, Fort Lauderdale & Broward County, Gay, Lesbian, LGBT, Media, Miami & Miami-Dade County, Miami Beach, Politics, Religion, South Florida, Sports, Transgender, Weblogs, Wilton Manors, Workplace, Youth | Permalink | Comments (0)
BY LUIS ANDRES HENAO
SANTIAGO, Chile -- Four Chilean men were convicted of first-degree murder Thursday for beating a gay man to death and carving swastikas into his body.
Daniel Zamudio's slaying set off a national debate about hate crimes in Chile that led Congress to pass an anti-discrimination law.
As the judge read the guilty verdict, Zamudio's mother sobbed and her son's killers stood motionless and stared blankly at the floor.
Judge Juan Carlos Urrutia said Patricio Ahumada Garay, Alejandro Angulo Tapia, Raul Lopez Fuentes and Fabian Mora Mora were guilty of a crime of "extreme cruelty" and "total disrespect for human life."
The judge said the attackers burned Zamudio with cigarettes, beat him with glass bottles and broke his right leg with a heavy stone before they abandoned him in a park in the Chilean capital on March 3, 2012.
News release from GLAAD:
Millions to go purple with GLAAD for Spirit Day in united stand against bullying on October 17
Oprah Winfrey joins celebrities including Macklemore & Ryan Lewis, Betty White, Nick Cannon, Demi Lovato, Ricky Martin, Ke$ha, Kim Kardashian, Melissa Etheridge; sports leagues including Major League Baseball, the NBA, NFL, and NHL
Hosts of Good Morning America, TODAY, The View, CNBC, The Talk, BET, Jimmy Kimmel and Wendy Williams; brands including The Coca-Cola Company, Facebook, Johnson & Johnson, and Delta Air Lines to participate
MTV, OWN, VH1, Logo, Sundance, TV Land to turn on-air logos purple as landmarks including Times Square, the New York Stock Exchange, LAX, JFK Airport, and the Las Vegas strip light up in purple in a show of support for LGBT youth
OCTOBER 17, 2013, NEW YORK, NY – GLAAD, the nation's lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) media advocacy organization, today announced confirmed participants who are wearing purple or going purple online today in a stand against bullying and show of support for LGBT young people on Spirit Day. Spirit Day began in 2010 to commemorate young LGBT lives lost to suicide. Each year, GLAAD organizes hundreds of celebrities, media outlets, brands, landmarks, sports leagues, faith groups, school districts, colleges and universities to speak out for LGBT youth on Spirit Day.
For more information on Spirit Day and to go purple or participate on social media visit http://glaad.org/spiritday and follow #SpiritDay. A #SpiritDay app is also available powered by Toyota Financial Services.
BY STEVE ROTHAUS, srothaus@MiamiHerald.com
Patrick Burke, the NHL’s director of player safety, says that if anyone had once told him he’d either run a gay hockey foundation or “had walked on Mars, I would have picked Mars 100 times out of 100."
Ten years later, Burke still hasn’t walked in space, but he did co-found You Can Play Project, an organization for gay athletes and straight allies.
"This is going to be the test kitchen on us going forward," said Burke, son of former Toronto Maple Leafs general manager Brian Burke and older brother of Brendan, who made headlines after coming out at age 21 in Nov. 2009 — three months before dying in an Indiana auto crash.
“After his car accident I decided I wanted to do more in the LGBT movement, so here we are,” Burke said.
The Burke family has been involved in professional hockey since the late 1970s. Brian Burke played a few years in the AHL, went to Harvard Law School and became a players’ agent. Patrick was a scout for the Philadelphia Flyers.
Brendan played a bit in high school, but didn’t seriously consider a hockey career because of his sexual orientation. His coming out in college got huge media attention after dad Brian (“an old-school Irish guy,” according to Patrick) publicly stood by him.
“For both myself and my father, the first gay person we knew was my brother,” Patrick Burke said. “This was all new to us, it was not something we were exposed to. We went from 0 to 60 in advocacy on this issue.”
Brian and Patrick didn’t slow down after Brendan’s death. They moved ahead, founded You Can Play and continue to speak out to athletes and other sports figures about gay rights.
“We tell people that at some point someone in their life is going to come out,” Patrick said. “It’s becoming more commonplace for LGBT people to come out. Maybe it’s not your son or your brother, but a co-worker. Somebody on your team. Or maybe a fan who loves you.”
Patrick said it’s also smart business for a pro team to support gay rights.
“We’re an entertainment business. We’re required to sell tickets to survive and alienating LGBT fans is not something we want to do,” he said.
The Panthers have been on-board since the beginning.
“We’ve enlisted numerous professional athletes and the Panthers have done a great job and been leaders in this,” Patrick said.
Star defenseman Brian Campbell, along with Tampa Bay Lightning Center Steven Stamkos, recorded a You Can Play video last year.
Panthers President and CEO Michael R. Yormark recently told ESPN’s Darren Rovell, “The gay population is a group we are trying to reach and better understand.”
“We’re breaking down barriers, changing people’s mindsets, event letting people in the gay community know they are welcome at a game,” said Brandon Loker, 25, a gay Panthers account executive helping organize Saturday’s event, a fundraiser for the Pride Center in Wilton Manors.
Eric Pinder, director in residence for Florida Opera Theater in Orlando, will be there. A longtime hockey fan, he writes for PuckBuddys, a website “for boys who like boys who like hockey.”
PuckBuddys is “written by gay men but is followed primarily by straight people,” said Pinder, who covers Tampa Bay and is seeking someone to write about the Panthers. “Think about it, there are more straight fans than gay.”
Pinder said PuckBuddys “makes people feel more inclusive about their sport.”
“We’re not dilettantes. We’re not being paid for it, but we know our stuff,” he said. “It speaks to me as a gay man and as a hockey fan. Hockey is viewed as such a tough-guys sport, with the fighting and conditioning that you have to have in order to play. This sort of macho thing. It is, but in reality, they were the first people to embrace the LGBT community. They said it doesn’t matter to us.”
IF YOU GO
- 6 p.m. Saturday - VIP reception in Duffy’s Sky Club
- 7 p.m. - Florida Panthers vs. Minnesota Wild
- BB&T Center, One Panther Pkwy., Sunrise
- Tickets $25, $55 and $75 (includes VIP reception). Sales partially benefit the Pride Center in Wilton Manors. You must use PROMO CODE: Equality
October 16, 2013 in Arts, Bisexual, Bullying, Business, Current Affairs, Florida, Food and Drink, Fort Lauderdale & Broward County, Gay, Key West & Monroe County, Lesbian, LGBT, Media, Miami & Miami-Dade County, Miami Beach, Music, Palm Beach County, Politics, Religion, South Florida, Sports, Transgender, Weblogs, Wilton Manors, Workplace, Youth | Permalink | Comments (0)
Jane Clementi, whose son Tyler in 2010 jumped to his death from the George Washington Bridge in New York after being cyberbullied by his college roommate, will be a panelist Saturday at an anti-bullying/suicide summit at Florida International University.
Here are the details from National Voices for Equality, Education and Enlightenment (NVEEE), the group sponsoring the summit:
Bullying and Suicide Prevention Summit Hosted By National Voices for Equality, Education and Enlightenment (NVEEE) and Florida International University College of Law
Commander Edwin Lopez of Miami-Dade Schools Police Department to Deliver Keynote Address. Panelists to Include Jane Clementi, Co-Founder of the Tyler Clementi Foundation, Cassidy McMillan, Producer and Director of the Award-Winning Documentary "Bullies and Friends" and more.
MIAMI, FL, OCTOBER 16, 2013 -
NVEEE in partnership with Florida International University (FIU) College of Law will host the "Not on My Watch" Bullying Prevention Summit on Saturday, October 19 at the Modesto A. Maidique Campus located at 11200 S.W 8th Street (RDB 1000) Miami, FL 33199 from 8:30a.m - 2:30p.m.
Sponsored by Kaufman, Rossin & Co., FIU College of Law, and PrintHouse USA, the summit is free and open to the public. Registration is required. For more information or to register, visit http://tinyurl.com/ksays7q or call 954.561.2626.
The purpose of the summit is to empower bystanders to become upstanders by engaging families and communities in a critical dialogue on bullying and suicide prevention.
Topics of the breakout sessions will include themes like "Digital Drama & Cyber Bullying" presented by Alex Wall, Managing Director of RockIt Lab and an NVEEE board member. Other formats will consist of a panel where current and former students in NVEEE's Peace Ambassador program share about the important role a bystander plays when bullying occurs and how they became empowered to stand up and speak out for others and themselves.
In addition to NVEEE Peace Ambassadors, nearly 200 stakeholders from Miami-Dade, Broward and Palm Beach counties are expected to participate in the summit, including middle and high school students, parents, teachers, counselors, elected officials, sponsors and community.
"At Kaufman Rossin, community involvement is a key element of our firm culture. Many of our employees are proud to serve others through passionate involvement in organizations like NVEEE," says Blain L. Heckaman, Managing Principal at Kaufman, Rossin & Co. "It is our privilege to help NVEEE make our community a better place to live."
Other bullying prevention allies who are participating as panelists include: Jane Clementi, mother of Tyler Clementi, a gay teen who ended his life several days after a cyber-bullying incident by jumping off the George Washington Bridge. Cassidy McMillan, Producer and Director of the Award-Winning Documentary "Bullies and Friends." Trish Behnke and Tracy Fentress, the mothers of 14-yr-old best friends Haylee Fentress and Paige Moravetz, whose double suicide pact due to bullying and harassment shocked the nation. Former Judge and FIU Law Professor, Phyllis Kotey. District Chairperson of TRUST Programs, Delphine Gervais. Special Education Attorney and FIU Professor, Laverne Pickney. NVEEE Teen Spokesperson, Ruth Sanders, and Jowharah Sanders, Founder and Executive Director of NVEEE.
"I'm happy to join other families who are united in taking a stand to keep our kids safe" said Jane Clementi, co-founder of The Tyler Clementi Foundation. "By being an Upstander and not a bystander, we can make our homes, schools, churches and online communities a safe and welcoming place for all. The Tyler Clementi Foundation is happy to be a part of NVEEE's work which provides vital services and training for educators, youth, and families in South Florida. Their work touches the lives of LGBT and vulnerable youth to realize their future."
A special thank you to our current sponsors and donors: FIU College of Law, Kaufman, Rossin & Co., PrintHouse USA, Award-Winning Documentary "Bullies and Friends", Hatten Design, Mud Mingle, Karla's Party Creations, Rosie's Bar & Grill, Courtyard Cafe, Miami New Times, Robert Joshua, True Motion Marketing, New Moon Bar, The Challenge Mud Run and Mud Mingle Halloween Run.
NVEEE is a community-based nonprofit organization whose mission is to prevent bullying, violence, and suicide among youth, families and communities through direct service, mentoring and prevention education.
Education is an essential component of how NVEEE engages families and communities in moving towards social change. In four years, NVEEE has reached over 15,000 students, parents, educators and administrators through its signature "Not on My Watch" School-wide Bullying & Harassment Prevention Program, and was recently featured on an episode of ABC's Secret Millionaire for its work in the community.
Safe Schools South Florida to present Bullying and Sexual Minority Issues 101 Saturday in Coral Gables
Safe Schools South Florida Presents Bullying and Sexual Minority Issues 101
Best Practices to Help Prevent Incidents of School Bullying Such as the Ones That Resulted In LGBTQ SUICIDES
The Workshop Will Include a Youth Panel Discussion About Their School Experiences
Priscilla Dames – Wingspan Facilitator
Saturday, October 12, 2013
8:30 AM to 4:00 PM
Coral Cables Congregational Church
3010 De Soto Blvd.
Coral Gables, FL 33134
(Across from the Biltmore Hotel)
Registration is open to all:
School Mental Health Professionals
Parents, Guardians & Family Members
Mental Health Agencies
Youth Service Providers
Interested Community Members
This workshop has a $20 registration fee. The registration fee, payable when attendees sign-in, helps cover cost of materials, continental breakfast and lunch.The Workshop will offer:
FREE: 7 Professional Developments Credits for Educators and 6 CEUs
For questions or for non-MDCPS employees to register please email: mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org?
M-DCPS Employees register for this course on the M-DCPS Professional Development Page of the website.
Register by title under "B" for Bullying and Sexual Minority Issues 101.
& The Children's Trust, The Aqua Foundation, Coral Gables Congregational Church, Gamma Mu Foundation, The Miami Foundation GLBT Community Projects Fund, The National Gay & Lesbian Task Force, Our Fund & The Roblee FoundationHelp Save A Life!
Sponsors of this workshop include The Alliance for GLBTQ Youth
Mississippi chancellor: Anti-gay jeers at Matthew Shepard play, 'Laramie Project,' a learning opportunity
GREENWOOD, Miss. -- The chancellor of the University of Mississippi says the disruptions at a campus play with gay slurs and inappropriate laughter from the audience is an opportunity to educate students about tolerance.
Chancellor Dan Jones met Monday with the editorial board of the Greenwood Commonwealth. Jones was asked about the play at the meeting.
The disturbances occurred Oct. 1 during a university theater department production of "The Laramie Project," which is about Matthew Shepard, a gay man who was murdered in Wyoming. Ole Miss officials say the dark theater made it hard to identify specific people, and early reports differ about the frequency, volume and source of comments.
Jones said those in the audience were almost exclusively freshmen, who were attending the three-hour play as a course requirement.