I love my friends, but sometimes they have no clue about social networking etiquette.
Posting embarrassing photos is something friends often do, but at least I have control over photos. I can always un-tag myself or set up privacy settings.
But posting my phone number on someone's public profile wall? That's a netiquette offense!
Here's how it happened: Last night I was heading over to a friend's house to watch the BCS Championship game (GO GATORS!). But I wasn't too clear on which road to turn on to get to the place. When I call the guy that lives there, his phone didn't seem to be working. (Phone kept saying his number was no longer in service.)
So I call up my roommate at home and ask her, "Hey, can you send a Facebook message over to the guys that live there and tell them to call me with directions? Put my phone number in the message."
I assumed she understood that to be a private Facebook message. Instead, she put my phone number on their public walls. I didn't realize this until I checked my Facebook account this morning.
My roommate sleeps during the day, so I sent a message to the guys asking if they could take it down. I feel so embarrassed and I had no control over it!
Was it my fault for not specifying to my roommate how to send the message? The lesson learned is that I shouldn't have assumed everyone has the same privacy values I do. What isn't a big deal to my roommate was a big deal to me. So I guess I can't really get mad at her. What would you do in that situation?
In my roommate's defense, I did wake her up from a nap when she sent the Facebook messages. So she was a bit groggy and just being nice and doing me a favor. For all I know, maybe she thought I asked her to post my phone number on their walls.
I'll get over it, but nevertheless it inspired me to write this post as a warning to the rest of you out there --- don't ever discuss private information about your friends on other people's walls, since they have no control over who sees it. When in doubt, send a private message. And in my case, when asking someone else to send a message on a social network, be specific!