Too busy for sex? This month's Best Life Magazine features Charla Muller, a former corner-office PR executive and mother of two, who found herself up to her eyeballs in kids and carpools and keeping up the house. The lack of intimacy wasn’t causing them to drift apart, exactly, but they weren’t really feeling the mojo in their nearly 10-year relationship either. So, Muller decided to give her husband a unique 40th birthday gift -- herself! She gave her husband the gift of sex every day for the next 12 months.
Initially, Muller's husband, Brad, thought it would be a lot of pressure. But they say the experience transformed their marriage. Charla just published 365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy. In the end, after factoring in sick days, out-of-town business trips, and other chinks in the schedule, the Mullers figured they got things done an average of 27 times a month.
Here's what they said the learned from the experience: Kindness counts "We had to nurture each other throughout the day so that we could come together in the evening and be able to find worthwhile intimacy.'' Television must go off "Banishing the remote until after lovemaking was a key decision." Make a game plan "We had to plan by the day and by the week. It's a lot easier to negotiate intimacy when you're talking about it." Establish house rules Muller laid down the law with her then 5- and 7-year-old children. "A closed door is a closed door. Just like kids have nap time, mommy and daddy have quiet time." Quickies Count "It's not like every night is a three-course meal, but we have to eat."
Is your relationship suffering from your lack of work/life balance? What do you think of Muller's gift? Too much pressure for you?