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12 posts from December 2008

December 02, 2008

Celebrity moms and weight loss

   Debra                          Weight loss is now a contest among new celebrity moms, at least in the tabloids.

   In this month's issue of Shape, "Will & Grace's" Debra Messing reports her post-delivery body was unfavorably compared with other famous moms. Debra tells the magazine:  "It was written about in the tabloids a lot," she says of her post-baby body. "On one page it showed all the actresses who got skinny in six weeks or less, and on the other page was me!

     Debra says she tried to lose the extra 42 pounds by going to a personal trainer.(click for some trainer tips)  "It helped me drop the first few pounds, but I was exhausted! I couldn't work out three hours a day and do my job as a mother and an actress. (Okay, working moms, can you relate to that?)

   Debra says she took the pressure off , cutting back on seeing the trainer but eating healthier. It took her three years, but she got back to her pre-baby weight. "Ultimately I'm very proud of how I dropped the weight because I think it was the healthy approach," she says. "I've finally taken ownership of my body."

        The Working Dad blog notes that despite the interview, Shape appears to be feeding this whole super-thin yummy mommy phenomenon. It leads the article with a photo of an incredibly thin Messing, and slapped Faith Hill on its cover in a bikini.

      I am more than willing to acknowledge there are a lot of hot non-celeb moms out there. But do you think celebrity moms with their personal trainers and personal assistants set a bad example for the rest of us working mothers? Or, do you think they set an example of what's attainable with some exercise and diet that the rest of us should strive to attain?

December 01, 2008

How to live in the moment

      Heading into work today after a great Thanksgiving weekend, I stopped to think about what made it so great. I realized that not once did I worry about my inbox, my voicemail, my week ahead. I just enjoyed the now. In the age of distraction, that wasn't easy.

         If you struggle with living in the moment while trying to balance work and life, an article in December's Psychology Today is a must read. Paying attention to the present is going to get especially tricky in the next month. If you are at work, worrying about your holiday shopping or go on a winter vacation only to worry about the work piling up at the office, here are a six steps from the article for living in the moment:

  • Focus on your immediate experience without thinking too hard about what you are doing. (Like dancing without worrying about how you look) Focus less on what's going on in your mind and more on what's going on in the room to reduce self-consciousness.
  • Savor what you enjoy and usually hurry through -- a easting a pastry, taking a shower, listening to music.
  • Being in the moment makes people less aggressive. There's no better way to bring  yourself into the present moment than to focus on your breathing. Once you are mindful and in the moment, you will react differently, respond more thoughtfully.
  • Set a goal that's challenging but not unattainable.  Set up the task so you receive immediate feedback ( a pianist knows instantly when she's played the wrong note)
  • If something is bothering you, move toward it rather than away from it. The mind's natural tendency when facing pain or hurt feelings is to attempt to avoid it, but that only magnifies the pain. Embrace the feeling and set goals for the future.
  • Develop the habit of noticing new things in whatever situation you're in.
  • You can become mindful at any moment just by paying attention to your immediate experience.

      Do you find your mind wondering/racing constantly? Do you think you would be happier, more balanced, if  you could live more in the moment? What are your biggest obstacles to living in the now?