Lately, closed doors are a big issue in my household. I'll come home from work and my 11-year-old son is on his computer with the door closed. Or my 12-year-old daughter has a friend over and they will close the bedroom door. Last night at dinner I riterated a house rule. No closed doors and especially, no locked doors.
But reading over the list of things kids want parents to know, I feel a little guilty (not guilty enough to change the house rule!). Nick News with Linda Ellerbee has been one of my favorite shows on television, tackling important topics from kids' perspective. On Sunday night, it aired Nick News with Linda Ellerbee: Some Things I Want My Parents to Know…But May Not Tell Them
In the half-hour special, kids talked about these issues:
- “Wanting my privacy doesn’t mean I’m trying to hide something.”
- “I may not always be nice to you, but I don’t hate you.”
- “Sometimes the way you view my friends hurts my feelings.”
- “I worry about you just as much as you worry about me.”
- “I want you to be my parent; I have my own friends.”
- “Even if your opinion is different from mine, your opinion is still important to me.”
Jacob from Great Falls, MT, on why parents seem to hate it when kids want their bedroom doors shut, if not locked: “When the door is shut on parents, it opens their imagination.” Albert from Alpine, NJ: “It feels like they don’t trust you…and that kind of disappoints you."
Most of us are just barely making our way through this journey of holding jobs and raising kids. For me, I usually get my best advice from other working parents. But, hearing what kids had to say about their parents was enlightening. Click here to watch the episode online.