Today, Miami forensic psychologist Dr. Sherrie Bourg Carter who specializes in burnout issues in high achieving women, weighs on the Work/Life Balancing Act blog with her thoughts on Michelle Obama's commitment to work/life balance issues.
But then, as I was doing my "research," I came across a blog Michelle wrote on BlogHer not more than a few months ago, and my perfectly good plan suddenly changed as I read: "The work-life balance is something I think about a lot. I’ve struggled for so many years to get it right, and I still haven’t figured it out. Too often, when I’m with the kids, I feel like I’m shortchanging work. And when I’m at work… or these days, on the campaign trail… I feel like I’m shortchanging the kids. For many years, I felt a lot of guilt—and I still do, though it’s better now."
Did she just say that she has struggled for so many years to "get it right" and still hasn't figured "it" out? It made me think. If Michelle Obama, a graduate of Princeton and Harvard Law School, mother of two, and now our country's top high-achieving woman (sorry, I'm not all that fond of the term, "first lady") - if she can't figure out how to "get it right" as far as balancing work and life, what real chances do we have? Not to say, of course, that any of us are two cents waiting for change compared to her, but come on - her "got my act together" resume is nothing to sneeze at.
Which brings me to my question and my point - With all the balls that we high-performance women juggle for as long as we have been juggling them, is it realistic to expect ourselves to "get it right?" Why is that script even in our heads? Is that a reasonable goal? I don't think so, but more importantly, I think there's a danger in thinking, as we high-achievers so often do, that accomplishing anything less than "getting it right," anything less than perfection is failure.
My point is - I don't think "getting it right" should be where we set the bar. Sometimes good enough is just right.