Some parents are crossing the line. They are using the technology not only to help with work life balance, but to constantly tweet, text and send messages to their kids who are off at college.
Some extreme examples are pretty horrifying. If you missed ABC's 20/20 segment, it's a must see. Here's the link to the segment.
The TV report focused on one of these extreme examples: Mom, Robin, has a full time job working from home but still manages to keep hour-by-hour tabs on her two sons' lives while they are at college. She calls and e-mails and has a dedicated cell phone number just for them to call her. She monitors their bank accounts, checks their school assignments. She writes to-do lists for them, proof reads their papers on her lunch hour and even drives to campus to do their laundry, shop for their groceries and pick up the mess in their dorm rooms.
Robin's sons told 20/20 they are grateful. One even considers his mom something like a secretary. Mom says that description is fine with her. "That means I'm very organized. A secretary helps keep the boss stay focused and organized." Robin says habits are hard to break and she stays involved because she wants to stay close to her sons.
It's easy to dismiss her as crazy mom. But I do understand the desire to stay close to your kids. Aren't we all a little bit crazy?
A psychologist told 20/20 that parents these days are far too involved in their children's' lives. "They are sending message 'you are not capable of handling your own life.' " The Miami Herald reported that lots of parents at Florida colleges are cyberstalking their kids.The article reported that UF students communicate with their parents an average of 13 times a week via cellphone or e-mail, which is much, much more than previous generations.
This morning I heard a radio interview on 105.9 with Dolphins tight end Anthony Fasano. He said his mom texts his regularly and recently send him frantic messages when she heard some players on the team had swine flu. Fasano is a big, big boy. I wonder how many times a day mom texts him and whether he even reads them all.
My kids are young enough that I can justify clinging just a little bit. But I have seen teens who can't make a decision on ANYTHING without texting mom first.
Do you think technology has it made it so easy to keep up with our kids that we don't know how to give them independence? Are we creating a nation of kids who expect more from their parents or just forming good relationships with our offspring?