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Apollo Ohno's dad -- crazy or devoted?

 

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If you have watched any of the Winter Olympics, you've likely seen Apolo Ohno's father Yuki alone in the stands, cheering on his son. Yuki looks thrilled, but kind of lonely, too. There are no family members, friends or significant others by his side. Ohno's mother has been notably absent. This hasn't gone unnoticed by viewers, according to sportsyahoo.com.

Yuki is a single dad who raised Apolo, an only child, from a young age when his mother took off. I watched a TV interview with Apolo and he talked about how much his dad had given up for him to be an Olympic athlete. It's a great single father success story that's gotten lots of ink on the blogs. (I enjoyed this one on Ramblings of a Single Dad)But it's also the story of a dad, a hairstylist, who worked long hours to make ends meet and then made his entire personal life about his son. Apparently, Yuki would work long days in a small salon, then drive hundreds of miles to bring a young Apolo to rollerblading competitions. We've heard of stage moms but we don't hear a lot about dads who devote their entire lives outside of work, or who make it their work, to make their kid a star.

Writes Beth Harris for the AP. "Working as a hairstylist, he raised Ohno alone after the boy’s mother left early on. Not an easy task, either, with Ohno describing himself as 'a kid who had a lot of energy and was out of control a lot of times.' Their bond is more friendship than parent-child these days, with Ohno turning to his father for advice about everything in his life."


With Apolo now a huge winner at the 2010 Winter Olympics this father/son story is one with a happy ending. But is it? Should a parent be completely devoted to the life of their adult child? Of course all parents feel elated when our children reach their dreams, their goals. Most of us get tremendous joy from our kids. But is it crazy to want more for Yuki? Do you think it's okay for parents to make their entire lives about their children? I know plenty of parents who do it. Yuki sure looks happy in the stands. But what happens when Apolo skates after all those big opportunities that lie ahead? When I look at Yuki sitting alone I can't help but feel a little sad.


 

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yukirocks!!!

The sad thing is that this article is looking for something negative in the parent's dedication to his child. maybe we should ask all those destructive kids/adults , would they mind a totally devoted parent such as Yuki? i guess they wouldn't :)

Cindy Goodman

There's a line between good parenting and overparenting. Many parents are struggling with that line.

kannitha

i disagree with cindy, i believe most parents in the u.s. are struggling with under parenting...as we see the youths of today wild out and getting more involved in self destructive activities, i truly believe there is a lack of parenting. also it is cultural. coming from an asian background, although i was raised here, i strongly believe in full parenting involvement. i wouldnt have it any other way for myself and for my son. yuki finds love and fullfillment from his son, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

single dad

I am admittedly very upset right now over a heated conversation that just took place, and I don't know where else to release that steam. I’m sure I’ll step on some toes in the process. I usually do. Frankly, I don’t care this time. Dads need to stop leaving their kids, and I’m tired of men not being the ones to say it. I’m tired of the world tip-toeing around these guys’ feelings. I’m really tired of society acting like such behavior is now “normal” or “expected”. I’m tired of the media making light of it. I'm tired of the emails and comments from endless mothers who've been thrown under the bus. More than anything, I’m tired of dads not taking their responsibilities and duties seriously.


John

There is a big underparenting issue in United States!!!

And to be honest I feel really sad for the write of this article.

Any fool can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad!

You go Yuki !!!

John

I meant "writer", not " write"

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