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Why I'm trading rock hard abs for work life balance

Every year, I resolve to do sit ups every day. I dream about the rock hard abs I'm going to get. And then, I fail.

Last night, I went to see a play. The lead actress had her belly button exposed the whole show and guess what? Rock hard abs. I convinced myself that having those abs is important to her work life and she probably devotes hours to get them. I just can't do it.

So while I want those abs, I'm not going to set myself up for failure in 2011. I'm a superbusy person like most of you. I don't have time to spend hours in the gym and it stresses me out to think that I have to make time to do hundreds of sit ups to get the abs I want. Frankly, I consider exercise a chore and I hate doing sit ups. 

But lately, I found a way to make exercise less of a chore and make it fit into my work life. I jog with my daughter. I know I'm never going to get rock hard abs from jogging, but at least I'm exercising, I'm enjoying spending time with my daughter and I'm doing it when it fits into my schedule. This year, I'm resolving to jog three times a week. That's a reasonable goal and I'm likely to feel like a success when I achieve it.

Maybe this is the year all of us make realistic resolutions. If you've resolved something in the past and failed because it doesn't fit in with your work life balance, change it up. Come at the goal from a different angle. If you can't get to the gym 5 times a week, try taking walks at night. If you can't get home by dinner time every night, try for once a week.

This is the year we succeed at our goals and move toward the mental and physical balance we crave. Are you with me on this?

Here's to a physically fit 2011 for me! (minus the rock hard abs, of course)

Abs My previous inspiration



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Heather Mundell

What I love most about this post is how you encourage us all to just do what works and quit worrying about not being perfect.

I know that I can get caught up in rigid expectations about what is good enough (e.g., "I have to do 60 minutes of cardio four times a week, not 35 minutes of cardio three times a week!") and that when I do it casts a cloud over my mood, my day, even my relationships.

So thank you for being the voice of sense and moderation and for illustrating how creative thinking can help a superbusy person attend to what really matters (exercise + daughter time = brilliant!)

Lori Druskin Ryan

Right on. Find what works for you. It's all about balance. We can apply that to so many areas of our lives. I am trying to eliminate some of the clutter in our house. It is never going to be Martha Stewart neat. And I'm okay with that. I just want to make it better a little bit at a time. And like you say, you just have to find a routine that works.


I'm so glad to hear I'm not alone in my effort to just find a routine that works rather than shooting for something I'm never going to pull over. Here's to a great 2011 for all of us!

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