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Lessons from the Schwarzenegger/ Shriver Separation

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If there's one thing most of us know, or should know, is that marriage is hard work. 

Add grueling work hours into the mix and the ingredients are there for disaster.

I was saddened to hear the Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger are separating. But I wasn't surprised. While I don't know exactly what went on in their home, I can tell you that the stress of a high demand work schedule during Schwarzenegger's seven years as Governor of California must have been difficult  on their marriage.

AOL says, Schwarzenegger, a Republican, finished his seven-year run as governor in January and has been traveling to deliver speeches and pursuing entertainment projects. He tweeted frequently during his travels to such faraway places as Brazil, Nigeria and France. Shriver was not mentioned in his Twitter updates from the road.

Did they grow apart? If the work life balance juggle, spending time with your spouse often gets put on the back burner -- someone usually gets resentful. I want to share some advice given to me by Joel Block, author of Making it Work When You Work a lot: Spend at least five to ten minutes of quality time a day having a conversation with your spouse. That's not a lot of time and it can make a HUGE difference.

If there's one thing we're learning from couples like Maria/Arnold and Tipper/Al Gore, longevity in marriage doesn't ensure a future.

What do you think is the key to a good marriage when one or both spouses has high profile, high stress jobs?