My husband often teases me about being a lioness. He says I protect my baby cubs too much.
As my babies become teens, I'm trying harder to let them fight their own battles. Sometimes, letting them do this is harder on me than it is them.
I was thinking about this when I read about Donald Silverman, a dad who obviously feels it's okay at any age to stick up for your kid.
Donald Silverman, 75, told Rabbi Yaakov Rosenblatt to stop picking on his daughter, popular comedian Sarah Silverman, 42. It started with the Rabbi's Oct. 11 "Open Letter to Sarah Silverman."
The Rabbi targeted the comedian's involvement in letmypeoplevote2012.com, a campaign against plans for voter ID laws. Sarah had contributed a satirical video that painted the ID laws as a plot to keep President Barack Obama's supporters from voting in the November elections. Her campaign echoed "Let my people go," Moses' demand in the biblical story of the Exodus.
The Rabbi lashed out at Sarah: "I wouldn't be writing these words had your most recent video not been framed in biblical language," Rosenblatt wrote on JewishPress.com. "As an Orthodox rabbi, I disagree with just about everything you say, but respect your right to say it. All I ask, respectfully, is that you not use traditional Jewish terminology in your efforts. Because doing so is a lie."
But then the rabbi shifted to her personal life, suggesting she would see things differently with a husband and children."I think you have latched on to politics because you are searching for
something to build," Rosenblatt wrote. "I pray that you pursue marriage and, if
you are so blessed, raise children."
Daddy Donald took offense.
He was not pleased with the tone and focus of the Dallas rabbi's letter. "Take your false god and shove god up your judgmental a--," he wrote to Rosenblatt in the readers' comments section of JewishPress.com.
Since then, many others have chimed in with their opinions.....
"He's her dad. that's what dads do — stick up for their little girls, no matter what," South Florida reader Gail Richards Rochat Reilly commented on the Sun Sentinel's Facebook page.
"Sarah, I love you. I love your dad even more. He is a ROCK STAR!" wrote one HuffPost reader.
I would hope that the message being sent is parenting is lifelong job. We love and defend our kids regardless how old we get. But the thing is as our kids grew up, they don't always want us to come to their rescue.
If I was Sarah, I'd love having my dad defend me so publicly. But I wonder how Sarah feels about it? Is she humiliated? Does she feel it demeans her that her dad's response has received more attention that her own? Do you think Donald Silverman did the right thing or should he have let the very independent Sarah fight her own battle?