I read a few articles in my own newspaper this weekend that opened my eyes on three important topics -- sex, money and kids.
On the topic of sex and kids, my journalist friends and working mom, Jodi Mailander Farrell sparked some great conversation with sex therapist Ian Kerner who co-authored Love In The Time of Colic.Kerner says parents, when surveyed, over-report how often they have sex. Sex ruts and sex slumps are epidemic in this country. He says working parents tell him they are too tired, too busy, too stuck in a rut. He advises, "Sex begets sex. Try it, you'll like it."
Jodi asks: Given the choice between sleep and sex, should we be choosing sex?
Kerner responds: Sex is actually very rejuvenating and stress relieving. It not only can help with sleep, it can make you feel better physically.
On the topic of money and kids, there was the must-read by Mimi Whitefield, a mom who offers pratical tips on paying for college. Mimi advises starting the process of visiting colleges early (sophomore year). She advises be weary of early admission because it will not allow you to compare financial aid offers from other schools. And, she says to make sure you know the difference between need-based and merit-based financial aid.
On the topic of college prep and kids, columnist Ana Veciana-Suarez wrote an hilarious and eye opening column on preparing your child for college. She calls it College Bootcamp. Ana makes a great case for teaching your kids household responsibility as early as middle school. WIth her older kids, Ana says she worried mostly about GPAs and SATs, study habits and note-taking proficiency. Instead, she says she should have taught them laundry, banking, ironing, cleaning, basic sewing and cooking. It made me think about when and what I'm going to teach my kids now that they are approaching their teen years.
I've been thinking a lot about delegating more household responsibility to my kids. I don't want to overload them because their homework loads are huge. But after reading Ana's piece, I think I'm doing them a disservice if I don't teach them some basics. An added bonus is that delegating would help with my work/life balance. At what age do you think kids should do laundry, cleaning, ironing?